“And We All Fall Down…”

Businessman Touching Domino Pieces Arranged in a Line

Have you ever been on the mend, carefully arranging life’s dominoes, standing each one up as you heal that particular piece, only to have something come along and knock the whole damn thing down? Have you ever been so emotionally messed up that you can’t even tell what’s real anymore?

Yesterday – yesterday my dominoes were knocked down and snuffed out. My new job, the one I was so anxious about, turned out to be a disaster and I walked away after 2 and 1/2 days. It started out okay, nothing special but doable. It is a difficult job but I don’t shy away from that anymore. But give me a harsh, doesn’t listen, know-it-all-but-doesn’t-really-know-anything boss, and you might as well just kill me right on the spot. Ever since the family crap, I can’t handle that type of personality. The frustration and rage start building inside me and it isn’t a good thing, not a good thing at all.

All the old fears and insecurities have risen back to the surface and it has me thinking – am I so emotionally messed up that I can’t even tell the difference between fear and logic anymore? Did I quit out of fear of not being able to do that job, or out of the logic in knowing that I can’t work day in and day out with someone like that? I left because I am not emotionally stable enough to handle that type of personality. I don’t want to be stressed out that much every damn day. I’m thinking it just wasn’t the right fit for me. But damn if my head isn’t confused about the whole situation. Sometimes I really hate me, the way I am. Why can’t I just be more normal? But then I think – how can I be normal with everything that has happened to me?

It leads me to ponder though – what is the difference between emotionally stability and mental stability? I know I am emotionally mixed up.  I am better than I was years ago but clearly I still have some issues. Does that mean that I am therefore mentally unstable? I want to say ‘no’ but aren’t they kind of related?  I don’t know what I am trying to express here; I guess I am just trying to work through this twist. I have to look for a job again and I will afraid all over again. I guess I can’t expect to heal everything all at once.  And the truth is, this started the chain of knocking down my dominoes, but I stopped it.  Yes, a few have fallen but I won’t let those few take down all the rest. I have come too far for that – I have to take my power back when and where I can.  Hopefully someday, those fallen dominoes can stand tall again too. I won’t let this break me.



7 thoughts on ““And We All Fall Down…”

  1. Hang in there, Sarah. I know that feeling of watching all the carefully lined up dominoes of life get knocked down with one push, usually from some unforeseen surprise. You will stand tall. You will not break. ((((hugs))))

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  2. Mental instability and emotional instability are very different. The fact that you’ve reported on what happened, how it affected you, and can second-guess yourself are pretty clear signs to this totally unqualified observer that you’re mentally stable.

    I have a volume from Oxford — _The Oxford Handbook of Philosophy of Emotion”, that deals with lots of cutting-edge clinical stuff regarding this. There’s one article I hope to summarize soon, titled, “What is an Emotion?”

    Great questions, and I’ve done this in the past year. There are lots of jobs that have revolving-door hiring policies because of bosses like this. Don’t beat yourself up for self-managing properly, and for registering that the job wouldn’t work out for you, and why. Better than staying in it, thinking wrongly that it would work, and then hating yourself three or four times this much for getting fired — which you might then wrongly blame yourself for whilst internalizing a bunch of wrong judgments about your fitness to work.

    Well done. Breathe, move on, and find a better fit. –and keep writing! 😀

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    1. Thank you from the bottom of my heart my friend! I so very much needed to read this and take it to heart. Sometimes I wonder about myself with how mixed up I can be from time to time, but honestly, I am doing the best I can with who I am and what I have been dealt. I know I am part of the problem and I am trying to work on that. I guess I was just hoping for faster progress. But I am taking your words to heart and will try to keep them with me in heat of the moment. Thank you!! 🙂

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