Mother’s Day is supposed to be such a light, fun, cherished holiday… except for so many of us out there that have strained relationships. Every year for the past 6 years, buying a Mothers Day card for my mom has been difficult. I swear, the majority of cards talk about how much mom loved me, supported me, and what a wonderful role model she was. Um, no – not true of my mom. Maybe once upon a time she encompassed those qualities but not recently. I know I could just get one anyway but I don’t like lying. And so, I always eventually find a more generic card with a “have a great day” saying, usually 20 cards in before I find it. I even get her gifts now, all the while knowing that they will sit in a box in the corner of her apartment. Way to make me feel special, mom! But at least I try…
And then there is the other side, my son treats Mother’s Day as nothing. If anything, I get a Facebook message that says only, “Happy Mother’s Day”, no card, no gift, no phone call, not even a “how are you” attached to his message. And then I won’t get a message again until Christmas.
For me, Mother’s Day is a sad occasion. My husband and step-son try to make the most of it for me and for that I am so very thankful. But something will always be missing. I even told them I wanted to skip it one year; I just couldn’t take it. For me, it is only a reminder of what was, what is, and what could have been, what should have been.
Please, as you go about your weekend, please remember that not everyone has a good relationship with their mother, and not every child cares. Pass a smile to others. Give a genuine hug. Be thankful for what you have. You never know when your wold can be turned upside down. Please, cherish every moment.