“You can’t please everybody. Don’t let criticism worry you.” (Robert Louis Stevenson)
Did I ever learn this one in the last few years! I was always a people-pleaser, the one who always tried to smooth everything over between others, who always tried to avoid confrontation and didn’t speak up for my own opinion. Life that way sucks! But of course, as soon as I finally spoke up in my family about something really important, and my views went against my sisters – they did things to harm me and estranged from me. Do I regret speaking up? No, I honestly do not. It taught me who they really were and it felt good to finally stand up for myself and to ultimately stand on my own two feet.
You truly can’t please everybody. Everyone thinks and acts differently. The best we can do is just accept when someone else disagrees. It’s rare that people will hurt you or just plain walk away from you. I was just unfortunate that my family sucks.
Criticism – that on the other hand is difficult for me, always has been. I take it so hard, too hard. I am trying to transition from letting it make me feel like I’m stupid or unworthy to letting it be a learning experience. No matter how much we know, there is always more to learn – there is no perfect person out there. Criticism hurts the most when, deep inside, we know there is some truth in it; it’s hard to see something negative about ourselves. But just imagine what would happen if we could work on and fix that part of us, if we could grow – we’d be better off in the long run. Criticism is a learning experience and not a dig at us. Most of the time anyway, the rest of the time it’s just cruel or narcissistic people, and what they think about us doesn’t much matter anyway – it’s their fake reality, not ours!
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