“The key to life is understanding that we are never in control.” This is a hard statement to accept when you are person that craves, needs control! But I think the statement is true – we can control ourselves (to a certain extent) but we can’t control others, we can’t control chance, and we can’t control spontaneity. We certainly cannot change the past – that’s for sure.
If you think about it, if we can accept that we are never in control, then it’s harder to be let down and easier to accept things as they happen, good or bad. This is coming from a control freak perfectionist by the way. 🙂
What is control anyway? Isn’t it basically just saying that we want everything to go our way? Well, life isn’t like that. We can’t all have control at the same time. It seems like many times I have tried to control a situation, it just gets out of hand anyway and I end up frustrated and down on myself. Why do we do that to ourselves? It’s simply not worth it if we want to get any kind of enjoyment out of life.
So how do we do it? How do we let go of control? I’m not sure how to answer this. Honestly, I have been trying and it is not always easy or just. I’m trying to see when something is and isn’t my fault, especially since I usually take everything so personally. I’m trying to give others the benefit of the doubt or at least trying to understand the reasoning behind something, the background, the underlying drive beneath the surface that no one can see. I guess I am just trying to be more aware and understanding. Can you imagine what this world would be like if everyone could do this??
We do however have to be in control of our own words and actions and take responsibility for them. We each have responsibility in this world – how we take charge of that is what truly defines us.