“No one can diminish you but yourself.” Have truer words ever been said?
Looking back, with an open and aware mind, I can see that almost every time I failed or just didn’t even try wasn’t because of someone else – it was due to the destructive, negative thoughts in my own mind. These type of thoughts originated in my childhood, from the abuse, and they took over as I grew up. I saw myself as what I thought everyone else saw me as: incapable, worthless, dumb. It left me always searching for, needing, positive reinforcement of the things I was doing. If I didn’t get it, then my thought process took it to mean that it wasn’t good enough, that I wasn’t good enough. It didn’t matter if what I did was perfect – if no one saw it or no one commented, then it must have been bad after all.
Do you see how crazy this is? Even the silence of others takes me to a negative place in my mind. This has to change! I am only hurting myself by trying to interpret everything and everyone.
“No one can diminish you but yourself.” I have to let that sink in. There is so much truth in it. We can’t let others dictate how we feel about ourselves. And we can’t let the false-truths that we believe about ourselves rob of us living life. It’s hard to admit but there is a point where we are only holding ourselves back. I’m admitting it – are you?